Sunday, December 14, 2008

Item Number 2

I wouldn't be surprised if most of you were wondering, Hey... what tripped Jeff's trigger on that last post?

Well, here's one thing:

On Friday night my son Brandon totaled his car when he drove into the back of another car that had stopped suddenly in front of him. He was fiddling with his radio and most likely following too closely. A typical young driver mistake.

Fortunately, neither he nor the other driver were hurt, but he wishes he could say the same thing for his car.

And his wallet.

Not only does he have to figure out how to buy another car (no, he doesn't have full coverage insurance), but the police also gave him a $123 ticket for "inattentive driving." Apparently that's a new law here in MN specifically designed to add salt to your wounds. In addition, he also has to pay the $75 tow truck charge. Ouch!

Anyway... my last post was something I had been thinking about for a while now as Brandon approaches his 18th birthday, and this little incident was enough to trigger the post - specifically item number 2.

So yeah, parenting is a great and wonderful thing...

...but it can also be scary as hell.

31 comments:

but Momma said...

So glad he's Okay! That was his eye-opener, now that will be it. No more wrecks.
You hear us Brandon? Sorry for the wallet dude.

Mooselet said...

First up, at least he's okay. Physically. Wallet wise and transport wise, not so much, but no one was hurt.

Did you want to strangle him when you got over the shock of it all and reassured yourself he was okay? That should be on your list - when they do something so stupid yet end up alright, you will want to throttle them. This is normal, and no you can't.

bon bon said...

dammit, brandon! go to your room!

my boys each totaled two cars. and each time it was a relief to see them walk away, although bruised.

these are perfect examples of when they pull out the "i love you, mom".

Drowsey Monkey said...

Oh, that looks scary. I bet he learned a valuable lesson there tho and thankfully he did without injury.

Better to make those kinds of mistakes as a kid, I say.

But as a parent I'm sure it's nerve wracking!

Thank god my cats can't drive ;)

deborah said...

thankfully, he is ok. label that one under your previous post, to which, he is now snickering I'm sure.

kapgar said...

I like the idea of the inattentive driver fine, but I'm worried about its enforcement in some cases.

Jacki said...

Wow....So glad he is okay! You can replace cars, however expensive they may be.

cathouse teri said...

My goodness! Yes, parenting is no picnic. And apparently, neither is being a young man!

My daughter turned 24 today. My youngest is nearly 21 and the oldest will be 28 this summer. I must say that being a mother feels like I'm constantly on the verge of being slashed by a razor blade.

My other analogy I've mentioned repeatedly, but I'll do it again here... for the sake of this terrible and wonderful subject ~

Being a parent feels like you have a steel post driven down through your body and the only way it will kill you is if it's removed. That's what I feel like every day.

And yes, it is worth it. But I wouldn't recommend it. :)

cathouse teri said...

(By the way, being a grandparent is worse. Hee. But... ya know... once you have kids ~ that grandparent thing just seems to happen! Let me know when you want more help seeing the positive side of life!)

mom said...

teri hit the nail, right on the head!! It's 2 days later, yet every time I think about it, my heart skips a beat!! And then I say another prayer of thanks that Brandon wasn't hurt!

Mom Thumb said...

I love in mortal terror of the car accidents, and both my kids drive very small cars. Sometimes I wish they drove Hummers.

Glad that Brandon is okay. Other than the bruised ego and wallet.

Bill said...

I'll bet Brandon is not too happy that his father has a blog, and all the world knows that he added to the junk yard. Oh well, he also has praised you for working two jobs and taking college courses. I am glad no one was hurt, and I am sure he will become a more attentive driver, if he can afford the insurance.

Gette said...

This is why the thought of driver's ed coming up makes me wet myself.

VE said...

I don't recall seeing this incident as a milestone in his skatepark plan...

Bummer.

April said...

Oh, I'm sorry, Jeff. I'm so not ready for that stage of parenting yet. Any chance I will be when I have to be?

Jeff said...

but momnma - We can only hope he has learned his lesson. I'm with you... no more wrecks!

mooselet - No, I didn't get upset with this one. If I knew he had been screwing around then it would be different, but I think in this case he was just being spacey.

bon bon - Sure, they pull out the "I love yous" when they've been in a accident... because that's when they need the money!

drowsey - Exactly. Look how well it worked out for Toonces!

deborah - Yes... I have given thanks many times over that he is ok.

kapgar - I agree. And shouldn't it need to be proven somehow too? Otherwise it's pretty much just patrol officers deciding who is guilty on the spot.

jacki - Yes. And expensive they may be.

teri - Sounds like you've been there/done that eh? I'm actually looking forward to being a grandparent. Please tell me it's all about cuddles, kisses and not being my problem. ;-)

mom - And specifically those Hummers with the reinforced armor like they use in Iraq. Yes, that would be good. Well, maybe not so good for the other guy.

bill - No way, Brandon LOVES my blog. I'm sure of it. Mostly.

gette - Just make sure you're wearing Depends when you actually ride along with them for the first time.

ve - Actually, it's his little brother who is doing the skatepark project. But he's also driving as well. Oh the joys.

april - Nope. Sorry.

cathouse teri said...

I've HEARD that being a grandparent can be all that, but in reality... I think not.

Still, everyone has a different experience, eh?

What I think is interesting is all the fuss about drivers on their cell phones. So they ban it (without hands free) in some states. What are they planning to do with people who want to adjust their stereo or change the cd? Or about mom or dad who are practically unable to focus on driving because the baby is screaming in the backseat making any amount of brain power nil? Or teens who are driving around with their friends in the car all singing, "Baby Got Back?"

The fact is that we have many distractions while driving. And happy we are that Brandon got a dose of what can happen without having to experience any serious injury. Money can always be replaced. And if I remember correctly, you have twenties lying around on the countertop at your house! Perhaps he can score a few of them! :)

Jeff said...

teri - Good point about the distractions. And good memory about the 20s! I wrote that post last July. Heck *I* don't even remember stuff I wrote from that far back! ;-)

cathouse teri said...

Well, I only remember it because you have to cling to certain random details in order to remember people you never meet. So, apparently, I have been impressed with a vision of you and Charli having a counterful of twenties! :)

Babs (Beetle) said...

Oh my! That looks very scary! So glad he wasn't hurt - well physically anyway :O) Will it make him a more adult driver? Well maybe ;O)

Like Drowsey, I'm glad that I only have to contend with the fact that they bring undesirables home - dead mice, birds and worms!

Mushy said...

So glad his is okay!

Heather said...

Oh scary! Now I'm even more bummed that my kids keep getting older so quickly. If one of them wrecks my car tomorrow!!

Elizabeth said...

I've been close to doing that myself, especially when the roads are icy. Glad everyone is OK!

Rickey Henderson said...

Glad to hear everyone's ok. Car accidents suck, but if it's any comfort, Rickey subscribes to the belief that everyone needs to have at least one in their life in order to become a safer driver. (At least that's what Rickey told himself when he ran over that mime).

Michelle said...

Bummer. Poor kid (kinda). I was going to say that it was the snow and all... I've got a few friend in MN who crashed their cars last week. And one here who ran into the gas pole at the station. I suppose that doesn't help him, does it? ;)

unfinishedrambler said...

I'd like to say I haven't been there, but I had a similar accident when I was 18. It definitely wakens you up to the world and thankful for being alive. Hopefully, he can learn from this.

JD at I Do Things said...

Yikes. Thank god no one was hurt. I guess Brandon will probably be pretty attentive from now on.

JD at I Do Things

Roger said...

Thankfully my one driving son hasn't been involved in any accidents (*knocking on wood), but unfortunately some of my friend's children have.

Make sure you give Brandon an extra hug or two, and I am glad that he is okay. Cars can be replaced, seventeen year old children cannot.

Maureen said...

Holy crap. I need to show that to MY teenage daughter...

Just glad he is okay (physically, that is).

kapgar said...

That's exactly my fear. Judgment calls are never a good thing.

Prefers Her Fantasy Life said...

I'm glad he's OK. But "inattentive driving" ? I suppose I'm guilty of that when I put on my makeup doing 65 mph.